When you get a summer wedding invitation that says “black tie optional,” does that mean the ladies are also allowed to wear black? I have a casual solid black maxi dress that I want to wear (and accessorize with a brighter color or something), but I don’t want to show up and everyone be like “why’d you dress for a funeral.” Help me, tumblers.
We often take a look around us at the people who are seemingly going about their normal lives and wish that we were them. We wish we had a life which seemed as amazing as our friends’, or a family like our next door neighbor’s. We just want to be like everyone else. We just want to feel normal.
Israel once asked Samuel for a king, that they would “be like all the other nations.” Samuel warned them against this, but they would not listen. They got Saul, a tall, handsome young man much like many of the people we often envy. But ultimately, Saul self-destructed, lost the favor of the Lord, and spent a good percentage of his days chasing David out of a jealous rage. He died on his own sword and lost all of his sons besides.
The fact is, all the “normal” people who seem to live better lives are struggling just as much as you are. They have their own trials and conflicts, and they all fail at one thing or another, just as you do. The façade we try to build around us often looks as good as Saul and crumbles just as badly. Do not deny what is special about you. Do not desire to be part of the normality when you were meant to be unique. Israel repeatedly rejected the favor of the Lord; they repeatedly rejected the fact that they were God’s chosen people. Embrace it. Embrace God’s promises and love and favor for you, and He will uplift you.